LEDESMABABY

Have you ever gone through a breakup with your friend and you aren’t sure what to do?

Same.

I have recently gone through this and although I do miss the friendship, I had to take a step back and realize maybe this was supposed to happen. It didn’t happen in the best way, but it brought out some true colors that needed to be shown.

I will never speak poorly of this person because she was there for me in a dark time in my life, which I am truly grateful for, but there were many times I felt I couldn’t be myself.

I’ve gone back and forth on reaching out, but I’ve played out both good and bad scenarios and unfortunately, I can see it going toward the bad scenario more than the good.

I’ve written before how your 20’s are your selfish years and it’s true. This is my time to be selfish and walk away from things that will not benefit me and my future. That is my focus, my future, how I can get there, what I need, and to avoid anything that will get in my way. There really isn’t time to be focusing on what could’ve or should’ve been done differently.

If you feel as though you are maybe being held back, can’t be yourself, or you are making decisions to make others happy, then it’s time for you to take a step back and re-evaluate that friendship. Ask yourself, ‘How is this person, this friendship, helping me grow?’. If it’s not helping you then it is ok to let go of that friendship. Even if you can’t completely cut that friendship loose, it’s ok to put it at a distance. Set those boundaries.

Now, if you know this friendship can be mended and you both are willing to work on keeping each other in your life, then go for it! Be honest with each other and make that effort!

Your circle may seem to be getting smaller, but you are building yourself up for bigger and better.

Wish them well and move on. Things will be ok. YOU will be ok.