LEDESMABABY

Let’s talk about the double standard in…DATING!

Why are women shamed for dating multiple men at the same time when men are out here being praised for dating multiple women?

Let me be clear, when I say dating multiple people, I mean going on first dates, and not being exclusive with anyone.

After getting my heart broken so many times, I thought to myself, “you know what, men can date multiple women at the same time, why can’t I?” Well, I can and I am!

In the past couple of years, my perspective on dating has changed so much, for the better!

Women are often portrayed to be the ones who sit at home waiting for the one guy they’re thinking about to call or text them first and make plans. Enough! If you are single, go out and enjoy that time! If you meet someone along the line who sparks your interest, great! Just don’t spend your single years doing nothing or waiting for someone who isn’t interested.

Some of us, including myself, are guilty of this. It’s ok. But now it’s time to get up, get your ass out there, and have FUN! Grab your best friend or a group of girls, get dressed up, and hit the town!

The past two years, I’ve tried the dating apps or meeting people at a bar or club, and I’ve been pretty successful in both places.

I’m being completely honest when I say the past two years have been the absolute best years of my life! I’ve met so many people and have gone on many dates, sometimes just one date, sometimes several. If it ends, it ends. No harm, no foul, at least I’m getting out there.

Ladies, do not be afraid to approach a guy! It starts with a simple “Hey, whats up?” Something I like to do, is kinda analyze a guy before approaching them, what are they wearing? Are they wearing a hat? What sports team? If I know enough about the team or sport, I’ll use it to start a conversation. What’s on their shirt? Is it something that I know? Even if I don’t know what it means, I’ll ask!

If you can approach a guy and start a conversation with him, he will respect you so much more and keep the conversation going with you.

I get it can be scary to be the one that approaches a guy first, I was terrified the first couple of times! But, we’re only scared because we have the fear of getting rejected. So what if you do, you find the next guy and do the same thing! I know what you’re thinking, “but it’s embarrassing to get rejected!” Yeah, it can be the first and maybe the second time. Gain some confidence in yourself that the next time it will work.

My belief is you have to get rejected a few times in order to feel more confident and approach men more. Sounds dumb, I know. But it’s true, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten rejected then when I did the same thing to the next guy and it worked, that guy that rejected me, came up to me and said something like, “Oh, well, maybe I just didn’t give you a shot.” Damn right you didn’t, but I’ve moved on, byeee! – Haha!

Ladies, your 20s are so important to just go out and enjoy life. Who cares what others think, they honestly don’t even need to know. Your best friend(s) is the only one who really needs to know.

Always be safe and aware. Make sure at least one of your closest friends, one you can count on, knows where you’re going if you meet up with a guy, and have a code like, “how’s the cat?” incase you need an escape!

So, girlfriend, get up, get dressed, and get out there!! 

Tag me on Instagram in those pictures/videos of you and your girls having the time of your life!

Comment below or DM me on Instagram if you have any questions!