LEDESMABABY

It’s common these days to go into a first date having such high expectations.

Why is that?

I’ve seen and heard from my guy friends that when they go on a date, the girl just expects them to pay, for everything. Not going to lie, this makes me (more than) a little irritated.

Going on a first (or any) date, women should at least offer to split the check, no matter where you go. If he says he’s got it, then appreciate it! If you go somewhere after, you pay for it, unless he covers that one too, then just keep offering to pay.

Why?

Because it’s what you should do. As a decent human, if you want your partner to treat you like “a queen”, then you better reciprocate and treat them like a king/queen.

I’ve heard so many girls say, “but it’s what they should do. He’s a man.” That’s B.S.

I’m not a relationship guru at all, but I know that’s not how it should work.

Going into a date having that high of an expectation shows him that’s all you’re looking for and will make him run.

Another thing I’ve seen too many times, is guys expecting a woman to look and act a certain way.

If you’re that shallow to expect her to look and act a certain way, you shouldn’t be dating. Period.

Besides expectations, I decided to add some things you should / shouldn’t do on dates.

Ladies, be your true self from the beginning.

There is no such thing as “perfect” so don’t try to be. He’ll like you for who you are (if he’s not a jerk).

One of my favorite things is conversation. If you can keep a conversation going, we’ll get along.

That goes both ways.

Ask questions, get to know the other person. Don’t sit there and talk about yourself the whole time. Sorry (not really) to say this, but no one wants to hear you ramble on & on about yourself if the other person isn’t asking or you aren’t asking the other person any questions.

Also, if you are on your phone, texting or on social media the whole time, how are you going to learn about one another?

The date isn’t on your phone, unless you are dating in the middle of this pandemic and are dating virtually. Keep your attention on your date.