LEDESMABABY

We’ve all gone through high school, college, elementary school or maybe even the workplace , where there was either one or multiple girls that just made your experience a living hell.

Everyone (girl/woman) experiences bullies at some point. Sadly.

Some of these girls can even be your “friends”.

When I was in high school, early high school years, I tried to be friends with this group of girls I had known for a while. I so badly wanted to be part of their group. They were your typical “popular” clique.

They were on the high school volleyball team with me, so I thought, “Cool!” Ha! They seemed nice at first, they let me hang out with them since I was pretty shy at first.

But then, I started making friends in my classes who I got along with more. I had a lot of athletes in my classes, so I made friends with a lot of the basketball, football, and older volleyball players.

Now that I’m older, I look back and I realize it was really just two girls who were SO rude. All.The.Time. I don’t know why I wanted to be their friend so badly.

Not to toot my own horn (beep beep! Lol), but I was a pretty damn good volleyball player. So I was so excited when the varsity coach took an interest in me (and 2 other freshmen). He was always making sure my grades were up post-season so I could play Varsity next season.

When I expressed my excitement to my “friends” all I got was a “Yeah right, you wish!” I don’t think a Varsity coach would take the time to make sure ANY freshman (besides the other 2) had their grades up, pull you to the side at practice and work on drills for your position, or even call the parents to make sure they were staying on top of everything.

Well, I f-d up my freshman year and couldn’t play the following season – my own fault. I know. I got them up in time for soccer and kept them up to transfer the following year.

Someone had asked if I was planning on playing sports at my new school and I said “Yeah, volleyball starts in the summer!” I had literally dreamed of playing volleyball at my new school. My brother went to school there as well and I remember the girls that played while he was there were so good! I went to their games, and even playoff games!

Anyways, this girls remark when I said I was planning on trying out…
She said, “You know how good and competitive they are, what makes you think you’ll make the team?” This stuck in my head and unfortunately, I let it get to me. I thought, “what if she’s right?”

I should’ve known not to listen to that. To her. To someone who had never played volleyball (competitively) before.

If this sounds familiar to you, if you are struggling with someone like this, please know, you DO NOT need them in your life. They are NOT your friend. They do NOT have your best interest at heart.

You are good enough. You do have what it takes. You are the better person.

Believe that.